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Tuesday
12Aug

10 Reasons Why Men Cheat

By Hanif Abdur-Rahim 
 

“As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.” 

-Johann Wolfgang von Goethe













Infidelity has an overarching theme that touches the lives of many in the world. The issue that lies inherently at the core is trust.  Trust is something that takes time to earn and is usually the result of positive communication.  Communicating in a positive manner is what allows one person the ability to relate to another person. In addressing the topic of infidelity, I think it’s imperative to start by defining what the word relationship means.


According to the Random House Unabridged Dictionary, relationship is defined as a connection, association, or involvement. It’s further defined as a state of connectedness between people. It’s synonymous with words such as dependence, alliance, kinship, affinity, and consanguinity.


Relating in its most elementary state, is brought about through effective communication. Effective communication is the key the opens the door to a successful relationship and in my humble opinion, is the key that locks the door preventing a relationship from moving forward. In order to affect communication, one must do as Stephen Covey says, “Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood.” This is a principle that requires us to move beyond our inherent selfishness, to a place where compromise becomes commonplace. Where there is compromise, understanding follows, and when we are understood, love follows.


Cheating is what occurs when relating is no longer valid or is taken for granted; therefore cheating is the antithesis of relating. Cheating can also be a reactionary method to get attention or can just be due to one’s own lack of self worth. Regardless of the reasons, I’ll try to outline “The Top 10 Reason’s Men Cheat.”

  1. Insecurity – Men are emotional beings, just as women are. When men enter into a relationship with years of emotional baggage that hasn’t been dealt, they enter in an unstable manner. They confuse manhood with a “player” lifestyle because that is easier than coming to grips with “manning up” and handling their responsibilities with the person they are currently with. Unfortunately, insecurity is an issue that has to be addressed by the person suffering from it, so outside assistance is strictly a supporting mechanism.

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Tuesday
12Aug

How To Date Yourself

By Hanif Abdur-Rahim 
 

“Perhaps one of the greatest rewards of meditation and prayer is the sense of belonging that comes to us.” 

-Bill W 
 











Dating oneself, is that an oxymoron? Is it even possible? Doesn’t dating mean that I must go out with someone? Someone must be involved in this process, right? Wrong!

Dating oneself is all about making an appointment and scheduling a time. We usually always do this with others because it’s almost a cultural mandate. It’s not too hip to been seen alone in a movie theatre or God forbid, eat in a restaurant alone. Well, I’m going to outline a couple of ways I think will allow us to be “weird” but find some inner peace.

“How” is the operative word that gets solutions to forming in our heads. It’s essential that we constantly ask ourselves questions all the time. How can I date myself is the question that we should start with. I say that we think of ourselves as another entity. Thinking of ourselves as the perfect companion we want to take out will allow us to generate a plethora of ideas. We always have this inner desire to impress the “other” person, so let’s use the same logic and impress ourselves. I think we deserve it.

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Tuesday
12Aug

Stop Wining

Wining and Dining on any budget

By Marcus Scott












Everyone wants the finer things in life; however, those “finer things” can burn potholes into one’s pockets. In every magazine imaginable—from lad magazines to women’s health quarterly—note quirky and exemplary methods to achieve the finer things but, let’s face it, saving a dollar a day isn’t the go-to technique it used to be. Also, there are times that one does not want to stay confined inside one’s home, and would rather leave a tip at the table than prepare and cook a meal.

While it is more cost-effective to prepare meals within the contours of our homes, preparing meals day-after-day could be tedious and mind-numbing event, and it is healthy eating out to fall out of this routine. But be careful, a play date here, a happy hour there, and by the end of the week, our spending could easily be equivalent to a trip at the mall. If one were to track spending habits and develop an inventive and resourceful budget plan, those “finer things” will be provided in excess. Here’s some tips on how you do it:


  1. Rule of thumb: Skip the beverage. The taste of soda pop is tempting, but a beverage is a fifth of the cost a meal. Water is healthy, free, and you’ve saved a trip to the gym.

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