No Alarm Clock Needed

Ladies…don’t hit the snooze button on this.

Sometime earlier this year, I heard a quote that I believe every woman needs to hear: “In order to live the life of your dreams, WAKE UP !” Seems simple enough; or does it ? The sad reality is many women can’t find the “control button” that will take their lives from extra ordinary to extraordinary. The reason ? They’ve unknowingly (or worse, purposely) fallen asleep at the steering wheel of their lives and are living on “autopilot.” As we progress into 2009, I hope that women will awaken and regain control over their lives.

For many women, the toughest task will be the first ; simply knowing and believing that you are worth it. Many of us have allowed ourselves to become so run down under the weight of life’s disappointments that we no longer want to take a chance on living the life of our dreams. We’re afraid of being let down, yet again. We don’t want to be hurt or disappointed by putting everything we have into someone or something else, only to be hurt as we have been so many times before. Because of this, we stop taking a chance on life, on love, and on ourselves.

If you want to re-establish the joy, happiness, and power in your life, then you must first reclaim yourself, for yourself. You must own the undeniable fact that you, as an individual, have purpose, value, and meaning. Once you do that, you will better be able to understand why you have been blessed with the gifts, talents, and challenges that have been afforded to you.

Women must also understand that the quality of the relationships in our lives is a reflection of the quality of the relationship that we’re in with ourselves. When you know your worth, you expect others to treat you accordingly. If you think highly of yourself, you refuse to let others treat you in ways that devalue you. However, if you have a lower self-esteem, you are likely to allow people to mistreat you. Accepting less than the best of what life has to offer isn’t an option. My advice ? WAKE UP.

As women, we also must begin to not only make better choices, but also, to hold ourselves accountable for those decisions. The fact is; our lives are shaped by the choices we make. If you live your life believing you are simply “taking life as it comes” or, trying your best to “play the hand that you’ve been dealt,” you’re not living a dream…you’re living a nightmare. Wake up. YOU ARE IN CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE ! Understand it ! Own it ! Seize it !

Finally, women should regain an earnest appreciation for alone time. Too many of today’s women are afraid to be alone. We buy into society’s unspoken stigma that if we are single, then we are somehow less special, or important, than someone who is in a committed relationship. We also allow ourselves to become obsessed with the thought of if we aren’t constantly searching, meeting and dating someone, that we are somehow going to miss out on the person we are destined for. Isn’t that an oxymoron? Of course it is. Yet, we allow this cycle to continue.

As we progress into a new year, we must recognize that each moment, is one we cannot get back. And more importantly, each moment is directly connected to the next. Therefore, what we do now not only defines our present, but our future. The sooner that we recognize this, the sooner we will be able to harness the power that exists within us all.

by Spirit. Love, Sex and Relationship Expert
www.talk2spirit.com